Dating Safety
In both the virtual and real worlds, common sense is your best safety tool
Online conversation tips
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Once you have received a positive response from your chosen date, try and get to know him/her better. Chatting through Biglove.com.au is one of the most convenient and enjoyable ways of doing that.
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Chat with your date warmly. Talk about things that interest both of you. Find out what interests your date and then brush up your knowledge in those areas. Also share your topics of interest with your date. Mere “Yes”, “No” and “Thank You” don’t make a conversation.
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Stay away from unpleasant topics like crime. Choose lively, interesting topics like sports, movies, music, books, etc.
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Once you succeed in building a rapport with your date in the virtual space, it might come in very handy if you go on to plan a live date. At least, you will know what to talk about rather than waste time in fumbling for topics of conversation.
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Flirting tips
| Conveying warmth across the virtual space can be quite challenging. But Biglove.com.au makes it real easy for you to flirt with your date without being offensive. |
| Start by making the other person feel comfortable with you. You can encourage your date by saying that you are enjoying communicating with him/her and that you would like to continue knowing the person better. |
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Write a cheerful mail, talking a bit about yourself, asking to know more about your date, his/her likes and dislikes.
If you find your date responding positively, send a kiss. Everyone likes to feel appreciated!
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But remember to
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Flirt in good fun. Make sure you don’t hurt anyone’s sentiments.
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Don’t try to punch in sexual innuendoes or be explicitly sexual. You can really make someone feel uncomfortable instantly if you try doing that.
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Don’t lie about yourself because the truth will eventually come out and then you stand to lose more than anyone else.
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Safety tips for online dating
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When you strike up a friendship online, you have of course never met the person or even heard his/her voice. We presume that everyone is being honest about himself/herself in his/her profile, and we do urge our members to be truthful about themselves while developing their profile. However, an element of uncertainty does linger. Hence, treat this relationship as you would any other new relationship. Do not reveal too much of yourself before this person has earned your trust. It is advisable to be smart and cautious.
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We would suggest you begin your communications only via the tools we provide such as chat, mails, kisses, etc. These tools in our free dating service are designed to help you retain your anonymity but at the same time, allow you to freely exchange messages and emotions with the people you want to get in touch with or would like to hear from.
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Be cautious and do pay attention to the way they communicate with you – how much they are willing to share, how they describe themselves. Are there inconsistencies in the information a user is providing, maybe the photo does not quite match with the description given, and so on. If you find that there are inconsistencies, it is likely that the person is not being honest with you. This is a sign to be on your guard. Rely on your instincts and preferably stop communicating with the concerned person.
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If even after discontinuing communication, the person keeps on trying to get in touch with you, you can use our “Block” tool in the messaging section to prevent this user from sending you any more messages.
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Don't give out personal details such as your name, phone number, address or a personal description to people you contact online. If you decide to have a date, never give personal details such as your address or surname. It is possible for anybody to locate your address details through your telephone number, so again be very guarded about giving out this information.
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Planning for a live date
| Enjoying a music concert together |
| A books exhibition with coffee to follow |
| Watching a new play followed by animated discussion on the park bench |
| A romantic movie and dinner afterwards at a restaurant |
| Sports such as tennis, bowling, golf, skiing or an afternoon boat ride |
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Don't give out personal details such as your name, phone number, address or a personal description through your emails or over the chat.
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Even if you decide to meet on a live date, never give personal details such as your address or surname. It is possible for address details to be obtained through your telephone number, so again be very guarded about giving out this information.
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It is always preferable to meet in a busy public place. Initially, don’t go home with your date or accept lifts or invite your date over.
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It is always better to have a friend accompany you initially or meet you at a pre-arranged place. You can always signal to your friend as to whether you want him/her to stay or leave.
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If there is no one to accompany you, make sure you inform someone before going as to where you are going, with whom and where you can be reached (name, address, phone number).
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If you don’t feel comfortable with your date, say quits. Don’t arrange a second date or give your contact info. Remember, it is better to rely on instincts than ignore them and regret later.
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